Day 1. Something new. Keep on dreaming…
Day 1. Something new. Keep on dreaming…
This makes me happy.
(Photo by Mario Sorrenti)
My favorite Sorkinism goes, “It seems to me that more and more, we’ve come to expect less and less from each other.” I’s not taken too seriously in that video I just linked, but it’s been an important saying to me for a long time. And with that saying in mind, here’s the thanks I feel like giving this year:
Thank you for expecting more from me.
Lord knows, that doesn’t apply to everyone. I know I’m the guy that communicates online a lot, at great length, heart-on-sleeve, and sometimes with a particularly confusing bone to pick. I know that has to be annoying to some people. I get that, and I might feel the same way if I were in their shoes. But please know, if you didn’t a million times already by now, that the way I am has everything to do with a call I feel to explore how to be a better person in this world. And the longing I have (and talk about, at great length) to see a new world - really, a new way of life altogether for all living things - is lofty, and idealistic, and again, probably a little annoying at times. But it’s real. I’m not forcing it or making it up. It’s really the way I think, the way I feel, the way I am.
My life in this particular world and at this particular time would be so much easier if I could just make myself more cynical. Or if I could dismiss a lot of my thoughts and feelings. Or if I could distract myself with more stuff…more memes, more TV, more food, more games, sports, sex, drink dranks…anything. SO much easier, thangs would be. But a life focused on being that way and talking that way wouldn’t be the real me. I wouldn’t be a worse person, because there’s nothing wrong with being a person who is more cynical than I am or more distracted than I am or more the “speaks when spoken to” type than I am. But I wouldn’t be me if I was trying to be any of those things. And in the frequent moments of weakness and exhaustion at being the heart-baring, awkward, over-communicator that I am, I’ve tried on those other hats. I’ve tried to post a snarky comment about a movie, or keep up with friends drinking at the bar for a night, or pretended to care about any number of perfectly fine things that I just don’t really care about. I’ve made friends whose lives and interests weren’t my cup of tea, and wanted so badly to be accepted by them that I hung around even if my instinct was to walk away. I’ve done the same thing with interesting and beautiful women I’ve met, women who are perfectly wonderful but just not even a little bit right for me. And in all those instances of trying to have an easier life, I’ve felt deep down that I expect more from myself than that. And I’ve felt other people expecting more from me, too.
I don’t get to know who endorses my journey to be a better person and who is annoyed by it. But I know that there ARE people who expect a lot from me. You expect me to walk my talk, you expect me to evolve, you expect me to follow my heart, you expect me to advance my musical conversation, you expect me to BE THERE. Be there to celebrate your journey, be there when you need a friend…be there to expect more from you too. And I think we both know I can’t help but expect more from everyone. Because that new world I want to see, that step farther up the ladder…it won’t be real unless we’re all trying to be better people, in our own ways.
So if you appreciate the kind of person I am, if you endorse my journey and expect more from me - thank you for that gift and I hope I don’t let you down. And if I’m a frustration or a pest, maybe whatever you don’t like about me will only help strengthen your resolve to be the real you. My only wish is that the real you wants to help the world, not hurt it. But that’s for another day of heart-on-sleeve over-communicating.
Just a note - next Tuesday December 3rd is Giving Tuesday. If you want to help out some animal friends of mine this holiday season, you can buy a copy of Dreaming In Twin between now and Tuesday and all the proceeds will be donated on your behalf. Read more about that here.
Have a wonderful holiday weekend if you’re celebrating. Whoever you are, I hope you get the love you’re looking for. As for mine? Expect it.
December 3rd is GivingTuesday and this is how I’ll be showing my support: Starting now, all proceeds from album sales for the next week will be donated to a few animal-related groups close to my heart, including Woodstock Farm Animal Sanctuary, Majestic Waterfowl Sanctuary and Mickaboo Companion Bird Rescue. These are wonderful people with so much love to give and so many animals to help!
Get your copy of Dreaming In Twin now and help contribute to my #GivingTuesday donation! Please share this info with the people you love, give your animal friends hugs for me, and have a great holiday weekend if you’re celebrating. I love you!
It was 25 degrees but I went out walking anyway, and I’m glad I did…there was the most beautiful dance of cardinals, blue jays, squirrels, deer, and other animals happening along the trail. More than I’ve ever seen in one place before. It was really something. I see that and it makes me want to be as good to other living things as possible - to need and take from them as little as I can, to be there for them as much as I can. If you got as close as I got to these birds, these squirrels, these deer…looked in their eyes, so like ours…watched the rising and falling breaths in their chests, so like ours…I promise you would’ve felt the same way. There wouldn’t be a disconnect there - a sense of them being lower on a food chain or lesser of intelligence or more distant in their awareness of being alive. There would be a heart-opening realization that they’re just like you. And then, knowing in your logical humanness that you don’t really *need* anything from them, how could you still want anything from them at all? You couldn’t, feeling that way. You’d be too in love with life to favor your desires that much. You’d suddenly be like a parent putting a child before yourself. Because you *can*, because you know your life would be all the better for it. And all you’d want from them then is a chance to show them your love.
(Photo by Ehtesham Zahoor)
I remember in 2005 when everything with Hurricane Katrina was happening, I was impressed that my dad cared as much about those people as he did. I didn’t feel the same way, because the hurricane didn’t touch my life personally. I was behaving like a lot of people - unless loss or suffering is walking up and smacking us in the face, we have a lot of trouble changing behavior, seeing things with a more open mind or just plain caring about bad stuff that happens to people. We feel like it can’t possibly happen to us, and so we have to get personally affected by it to really learn the lesson. I’m not like that *as much* anymore, but I bring it up in order to say this: Please finally learn the lesson to keep your eyes off your phone and ipad (!!) while driving your car. Even at stop signs, even at red lights. Don’t take photos of sunsets or birds or traffic or whatever with your phone *while* driving. I resist the urge with birds all the time - trust me, it can be done. I don’t want any of you to have to be smacked in the face by suffering and loss to finally learn this lesson. And I don’t want me or anyone I love to be involved in the suffering or loss your reckless driving causes.
If you’re like I was in 2005, and you hear about car accidents and you just can’t feel anything about it, come talk to me and I’ll tell you about my dad’s car accident from when I was a kid (what I’ve been told about it by others). Maybe you could even meet him. You can hear about what his life is like in a wheelchair, how it’s changed him and his family. How it’s changed me. Maybe that will be enough for you. But whatever it takes, please find it in yourself to realize that doing phone stuff in the car just absolutely has to stop. Period.
Part of the reason I have so much trouble trusting and loving other human beings is that so much of our life routine is arbitrary…we do what we do without much thought, just because it’s the way things are, the way things have always been. How do you trust creatures who live like that? Who have so much trouble being present to the impact of how they’re living each and every moment? Look at how dangerous that way of living can be…
Please reblog the video & share the album links with your friends! Thanks for listening! <3
My new baby is here!
I hope you check it out, and I hope it means something to you. Thanks for any love you send my way <3
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